Yup, that’s exactly how you feel. Forget sucking it up! Try some real tips and tools based in lived experience so you stop feeling like a burnt-out triple-decker grilled cheese sandwich. Your courageous advocate Carol-Ann says it like it is. And that’s no bologna!
Let’s pick up where we left off with the ACTION of Observe as it regards coping with Un-cope-able Parents.
As mentioned, you will need to draw upon your finely-honed powers of observation – listening, noticing and picking up on verbal or non-verbal cues.
Some days, it feels like your parents could pull the wool over your eyes if you let down your guard for even a moment. Rest assured! You’ll be able to spot their ruses from a mile away!Read More
Today’s connection begins with wondering whether you “saw” anything different from your 30,000 foot imaginary “ride” above the craziness of your parents’ household.
Whether you did or didn’t, I’m here with some unfortunate news… Oh great, you’re muttering. Isn’t there already enough to contend with regarding the impossible duo?
I know! Yet, no matter how abhorrent it feels to intervene in the best interests of one or both parents, I’m here to say you’ll regrettably need to. In a way, we’re back to Advocate but adding to the mix the next aspect of ACTION – namely, Initiate.Read More
To my previous posting, I could add this bit of “good” news. After my Mom passed away, the ACTION of Initiate became considerably easier Read More
I’d be curious. What arose from the inside as you contemplated my inquiry concerning how you could possibly view your eldercare challenges from a higher plane?
Was this difficult on some level, because you continue to refuse that you could’ve possibly chosen that pair! Or, did you locate some ease and grace in adopting a less attached opinion?
Either way, I don’t mind admitting mine was a bitter struggle within for a long period until I arrived at a different perspective.Read More
How many of you have had similardriving test experiences with your aging folks as I did with my father when he was turning 88?
Given a rapidly-growing senior population that needs re-testing, I would have to imagineRead More
…flunking the driving exam…
Forgive me for being a bit naughty by leaving you in suspended animation!
How did I come up with this explanation? Too many phone calls leading up to “The Big Day” had been devoted Read More
Are you ready for your next ACTION-oriented Key to Coping? I anticipate your answer is yes, as one can never have too many strategies for dealing with Un-cope-able Parents!
Let me start by asking you this:Read More
To resume where we left off, I needed to stand up to my father, no matter his blustering reaction to being called on the carpet for his self-centered attitudes. Gosh knows, I have the internal mettle.
Had I done so, Mommy’s final daysRead More
Are you ready for the first letter within the acronym ACTION? It stands for Advocate.
What definition comes to mind when you think of that term? As a verb, you likely summon the idea of defending. As a noun, you conjure a person who supports or pleads in favor of another.
True. Yet,Read More
Thank you so much to all of you who bore witness to the Memories, Lessons and Insights of the one-year anniversary of my father’s passing on August 26th.
It was a great privilege and honor to impart my experiences. Since, more than one person in my circles who has contended with un-cope-able parents (or still is) has thanked me for the difference these posts made.
The main feedback centered uponRead More
