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The Anniversary: Additional Insights

It is now over a week since the one-year anniversary of my father’s passing in 2012.  What an emotionally-replete one it has been.  Can you spell roller-coaster?

Fully-braced, I pulled out all my strategies to get through August 26th.   Generally, Monday went as well as can be expected.  What I didn’t see coming was August 27th – the actual date I learned of his transition.

How intriguing is the connection between mind, body and spirit.  Despite how much I’ve discovered through the trials and tribulations of seeing a difficult elder through the latter stages of their life’s journey, I was not prepared for what happened around 3:00 p.m.  By my memory, that was when I received The Call regarding my Dad’s loss twelve months ago.Read More

The Anniversary: Lessons

Yes, I know I was stark in describing my initial anniversary reactions concerning my father’s transition.  I believe you have come to anticipate that from me.

Along with my unbridled support, you have my unfettered permission to speak YOUR truth – at minimum to yourself when you read my words and at its best toward others.

For, I truly hope you have some people around you to provide an empathetic ear to yourRAW parental accounts.  The unvarnished version (like mine) is not easy to hear.  I know.

Bottom-line, you need places where you can honor what’s right by YOU in safety, trust and personal integrity.  You absolutely require – and deserve – this!!

We’re not at the end of the story.Read More

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The “Missing Glasses” Episode – Part 2

What ideas do you have?

Was Laughter called for during “The Missing Glasses Episode”?  Did I have to apply Openness, to consider various perspectives on this latest urgency?  Might I have needed to raise my Vibration to stay light-filled?  How about Intention, in terms of focusing upon the wanted?  Did Neutrality ever figure in, as far as loving without attached caring?  Was there along the way a role for Grace, by staying committed to lower aging stress levels?Read More

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Loving Detachment

Picking up with the notions of Neutrality and having zero opinions regarding our elders’ actions and attitudes, let me make sure to also express my gratitude to coach, Martha Beck of O magazine for her July 2011 column, called “I Don’t Care”.

When speaking of “detached attachment”, Beck makes the critical point that caring – with its shades of sadness, fear and insistence – is not love.
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Vibration and Eldercare

How did you make out with your journal recording?  Did generating a range of perspectives on your aging folks serve you?

You will recall my lack of shame in confessing an initial list containing some rather derogatory descriptors.  In my shoes, you’d see why.  Eventually,Read More