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the missing glasses episode

The “Missing Glasses” Episode – Part 2

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What ideas do you have?

Was Laughter called for during “The Missing Glasses Episode”?  Did I have to apply Openness, to consider various perspectives on this latest urgency?  Might I have needed to raise my Vibration to stay light-filled?  How about Intention, in terms of focusing upon the wanted?  Did Neutrality ever figure in, as far as loving without attached caring?  Was there along the way a role for Grace, by staying committed to lower aging stress levels?

Try all six LOVING attitudes!!

The “Missing Glasses Episode” – Part 2

To entirely appreciate the rest of this story, you need to know my father’s mountains of “stuff” in just the recreation room alone were so monstrous it took a cat’s finely-honed suppleness to navigate the rickety circuit.  Picture “hoarders on steroids”!

Early in my paternal “adventure”, I honestly believed I was the only adult on the planet who contended with such an unspeakable home-where-you-grew-up environment.  My stomach fully churns today at the mere thought.

How wrong I was.  So many in Un-cope-able Parent situations have since recounted similar circumstances.

I can therefore totally picture how moving the flimsy pile from the pillar of the bar counter to the post of a neighboring couch likely resulted in them toppling onto the floor underneath.  At least, that was my theory.

Transmute the frustration.

Sure enough!

No sooner had I hung up the phone puzzled by how a stack of eyeglasses (intact the last time I saw them) could have mysteriously “disappeared” than ding-a-ling!  No sooner had I suggested to my father that we re-trace steps in our minds overnight (after an hour-long discussion on this subject alone!!), than a short 15 minutes later he’d found them.

Where do you think the pile was?  Right!  Exactly where I suspected…  Beneath the sofa!

Even after all that, my father was unconvinced the grouping of glasses hadn’t been carried off by a rodent!  Thank goodness I possessed the Grace not to inquire whether he’d also lost a novel to the “reading” varmint!

What was learned?

Goodness, it took every level ounce of discretion I possess not to blurt, “Do you logically think a burglar would go first to your collection of orphaned 1960’s and 1970’s sun, reading and driving glasses, Daddy?”

Talk about an opportunity to reframe desperation into compassion.

Toward that end, I extend Carl Rogers’ offering: “When I accept myself as I am, I change.  When I accept others as they are, they change.”

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Carol-Ann Hamilton

Carol-Ann Hamilton

Carol-Ann Hamilton has taken her 25 years of corporate experience and turned it into an issue of personal importance. She is a pioneer-activist on the leading-edge of the exploding aging crisis and seeks to save fellow Sandwich Generation caregivers a fraction of her anguish.
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