Really, an equally suitable title for this week’s blog would be: “Don’t Touch My Stuff!”. If there were only one command that characterized my father when I got too close for his liking to organizing his mountainous piles of papers and more, this one would be it.
What’s THAT About?
Like a senior fiercely gripping the car’s wheel despite being a roadway hazard, this form of stubbornness probably regards a desire to hide some questionable practices. Like a teenager sneaking down the backyard trellis under curfew, the “stop prying” edict is founded in fear. It is intended to deflect your discovery of some out-of-control affairs. Common examples include bill-paying and deteriorating abilities to manage the household inside and out.
You Need a Combat Mindset
After encouraging you in my last blog to adopt non-contentious attitudes, have I suddenly flip-flopped? Not exactly. However, taking a cue from my own A to Z lists in Coping with Un-cope-able Parents: LOVING ACTION for Eldercare, it did require Focus plus Determination (and MUCH more) to withstand my father’s yelling barrages over modest efforts to tidy his growing hoarding tendencies. Alone, the fights over trying to vacuum his recreation room hovel… Holy.
Why Is This Necessary?
Let me ask you. How have you prevailed so far in wanting to shove your solutions down resistant aging throats? I thought so. Not so well, right? My former Warrior Woman stance seldom to never worked. Instead, the art lies in maintaining assertiveness without becoming aggressive. Bottom-line, you need to keep your wits about you because the situation is about to become exponentially worse. You do not believe me?
Next Time Around
Then you will want to check out my next post which is entitled: “Once They’re Housed, We’re Good”.
Well before COVID-19, my stance about long-term care facilities (and what that REALLY means) was not favorable. Now – more than ever before – stay tuned for the lethal statistics the Coronavirus has proven in so-called developed nations around the world.