Incredibly, we’ve completed the first week of September. No matter the North American or other school systems, classrooms are getting into full-gear. That means it’s also time to return to some fundamental eldercare lessons.
Are you ready to ‘officially’ enter “Carol-Ann’s Top 10 Caregiver Lessons” world? Consider it a distillation of the best-of-my-best insights gained at the hands of two of the most intractable parents on planet Earth.
Each theme will spell out common phrases and/or questions my coaching clients pose. Then you will be offered follow-up resources and/or reflections to tide you through the coming week.
“I consume hours ‘psyching up’ for interactions!”
Rather than ‘psyching’ up, may I recommend that you define readiness as preparation? Just as you’re a proactive professional at work, so too can you summon those same attitudes and skills in your dealings with loved ones. For a difficult business meeting, you go in with facts at your fingertips. Right? How about we add a Reiki technique to the mix? Imagine placing an invisible ‘bubble’ around you so that elders’ shenanigans affect you less. Trust me, it works.
“My eyeballs roll into the back of my head just thinking about them.”
While perfectly understandable, this thought pattern will ultimately victimize you. It will cause you to be in deep trouble long before you even enter their company. May I challenge you to instead concentrate upon what you do appreciate about your folks – ultra-challenging as they can be? Why ‘should’ you do that? You ‘should’ do nothing you don’t want to! It’s just that, what we focus upon expands. Think unwanted thoughts and you’ll get more of them.
“I am spent by the pair!”
If you are that drained by your parents (physically, emotionally, mentally, otherwise), please re-visit your self-care. This chapter of life is unequivocally tiring. Such wit-testing periods require special attention to self-nurturing. What brings you pleasure? Do it! For me, it’s leisurely bubble baths. Place boundaries around visits; don’t bite off more than can be chewed at one time. These points cannot be stressed often enough.
Today’s offering is The Pissed-Off Journal. Through three quick and easy steps, you let go of the ‘stuff’ that bugs you about your elders and daily life.
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