Yes, you continue to catch me in a feisty mood while proving why New Year’s Resolutions fail 90% of the time. On my weekly program called “The Conscious Caregiver” at www.boldbravemedia.com we dedicated a whole show to this theme.
So that you truly experience a successful year (as YOU define it), I invite you to join me in applying a highly-useful format. Keep-Stop-Start has proven a great way to lay out deliberately-chosen Intentions. I’m at year 19 of using the method.
As you identify at least three positive eldercare accomplishments from 2018 (“Releasing the Past Eldercare Year” blog), you have some keepers to maintain going forward. For instance, what is one mindset you found especially productive around even stubborn elders? Was it patience or perseverance or another quality? The North American mentality especially devalues states of being that must necessarily work hand-in-glove with our actions.
In fact, changed external circumstances start with our inner attitude. BEING precedes DOING. You may have noticed some mindsets that didn’t support you or your folks. If frustration or annoyance showed up anywhere, they would go on your Stop list. If you learned that trying to force your resistant parents into “my way or the highway” decisions was not effective, then how about not banging your head against a wall and instead trying something different?
Based on your reflections – and what you’re learning about crafting what you do WANT – identify some new attitudes and behaviors you plan to enact in the coming 12 months. I find it essential to not overwhelm myself. Remember: A Laundry List is typical of New Year’s Resolutions. How about you select ONE Keep, ONE Stop and ONE start to begin? That’s the Being. For the Doers out there, I accord you FIVE main actions you choose to focus on.
What Comes After This?
To gain some additional inspiration, check out my book, Coping with Un-cope-able Parents: LOVING ACTION for Eldercare at https://www.copingwithuncopeableparents.com/shop/
It spells out 12 Keys to Success that combine Being plus Doing. The six LOVING Attitudes are: Laughter; Openness; Vibration; Intention; Neutrality; Grace. The six Focused ACTION’s are: Advocate; Clarify; Trust; Initiate; Observe; iNnovate. May the dozen give you inspiration to confirm your own Keep-Stop-Start intentions for 2019. I am sending you positive energy!