Last week, we confirmed that 4 of 5 people will have thrown in the towel on their New Year’s Resolutions by March 1st. Care to know another reason why? They’re missing a key step.
It’s called: “Getting Complete by Releasing the Past”. What do I mean by that phrase? Whether you hooted and hollered your way across the threshold of 2019 or acknowledged the departure of 2018 with quietude, how much time did you spend reflecting upon the past 12 months? That’s what we’re going for today.
What Didn’t Work?
In North American style, did you rub your hands with glee that another annual cycle with your crazy-making folks was ‘survived’? Now you can begin with a blank slate. Not so fast! Isn’t it Einstein who said: “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result”? If you fail to carefully examine what didn’t go so well in your aging parent relationship, how is it that you believe this year will somehow be different? We call that magic.
What Did Work?
To seize back the reins of self-empowerment, it’s vital that you spend some moments itemizing even three things that didn’t work. What feelings were opposite to what you hoped for? I might guess they included frustration, anger or possibly sadness. Yes, this is rough but worth it in the long run. At the same time, it’s critical to document what you did achieve. What three caregiving accomplishments are you most proud of? Kudos to you for being willing to look!
What Lessons Did You Learn?
Then there’s this provocative one. As you record last year’s wins plus disappointments, you will have learned some things along the way, right? I personally roll up my monthly journals into 5 to 7 key lessons. The good news is, you don’t need to extract so many! How about we again go for three? These will translate into true Intentions I will help you set next time. They will be founded on you do WANT to occur – not a burdensome list of SHOULD. Right?
What Is Next?
Until then, I urge you to keep thinking about your positive WHY for shifting (i.e., maintaining your health, safe-guarding your other relationships and sustaining your work whether employed or entrepreneurial).
As well, you may want to catch the inaugural episode of my new radio show season. The theme was “A New Caregiving Year”. Listeners learned how to distinguish typical Resolutions from powerful Intentions at https://www.spreaker.com/user/bbm_global_network/conscious-care-giver-show-26